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This week, our tween becomes a teen!

Just a few months ago, he was a PSLE kid (like the rest of the Primary 6 kids in Singapore).

But with the drop of a ‘double u’ (like a blink of an eye), he graduates to teen-hood and enters his Secondary School years.

These few weeks of going from tween to teen have been marked by two camps:

In December, we sent him for his first-ever Youth camp organised by our church, where he stayed out for 4 days and 3 nights. He was amongst the youngest, with youths there from 12 to 18 years old.

He learnt to pack his own bag, experienced hostel living and played as a team. He had a relatively comfortable hostel bed and relatively good food.

He gave his best to team games to score extra team points, including waking up at 6am (when everyone else was still asleep) and having the courage to go on stage to sing a worship song.

His team won the Camp games.

A few weeks later, in January this year, he went for a compulsory 4 days 3 nights school camp, where he and his cohort stayed in the boondocks in much less comfortable conditions.

They slept in sleeping bags on hard floors, had the most basic of necessities and food. And used toilets, which brought on salutes for anyone who dared go there.

He did not relish the living conditions. But he enjoyed the outdoor activities and gave his best at the team games.

And he didn’t lose a single item from his camp  (which I learnt is quite a feat, given the massive Lost and Found pile which teachers and peer leaders collected.)

He was named Best Camper 2024 (with 4 other boys) in the total cohort of about 300 boys.

It’s an encouraging start to teenhood:

  • Learning independence.
  • Building resilience and teamwork.
  • Persevering through challenges.

There will be much more in the teen journey:

  • Stumbles and falls
  • Failure (and failings)
  • Emotional scrapes

    My prayer is that through it all, Caleb will walk closely with God and grow in resilience, wisdom and discernment.

And for us parents, we will need to grow alongside him.

To know when to speak and when to be silent.

When to reach out, when to pull back.

And to undergird it all with love. Because love never fails.

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

                                                                               – 1 Corinthians 13:13

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Caleb survived a gruelling 4 days 3 nights away from home at his Secondary School 1 school camp!

And he went beyond mere survival to receiving Best Camper 2024 in class yesterday for reasons which I am so proud of him for:

“Showed resilience during the Camp Challenge and didn’t give up even when the team lost interest. Tried to encourage everyone to be involved and was also respectful towards his peers, teachers and peer leaders.”

We were so excited that we passed our phone to the parent at the back of class, where we were standing, to take this photo (rather than to a parent in front). So after enlarging it, this grainy photo is the only one we have of this special badge presentation. lol

The boys brought their own sleeping bags and slept on hard floors, had vigorous outdoor activities through the day, lights out at 10pm (though most ended up sleeping much later) and were up by 6 am to be ready for briefing and breakfast at 6.30am.

His form teacher and Sec 3 and Sec 4 peer leaders were amazing, as they rattled off and affirmed each boy’s best attributes displayed at camp at the badge presentation in class yesterday.

I’m so thankful that, with God’s hand, Caleb has started at a secondary school where the priority the past three weeks has been about team building and fostering camaraderie in such an intentional way. To me, that is precious and a great way to start Secondary 1, instead of jumping right into textbooks.

I asked him what his favourite activities at camp were.

He said: Kayaking, rope course and abseiling.

I had to ask what his least favourite parts of camp were.

He said: hard sleeping floor, the toilets and the food.

Caleb: And there was no ‘char’ in the char kway teow.

Me: You mean it was plain.

Caleb: Yah.

Me: What else did you eat?

Caleb: Rice.

Me: Like fried rice?

Caleb: Yah. But the best rice was the plain rice.

I guess he’s gotten early training for his future army enlistment. Haha 🙂

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