Today is Thank God for Family, Friends & Favour Friday!
Lots have happened in the past three months since I was first diagnosed with breast cancer.
But slowly, I have reached half-time in the chemotherapy/post-operation treatment. I’ve completed the first 3 treatment cycles, with another 3 more to go in the 9 weeks ahead. Today, I go for the 4th chemo/post-op treatment.
As I reflect on this period, I’m thankful for 6 decisions which have sustained me this far:
1. Going direct to my Maker
When my watch is spoilt, I go to the watchmaker.
So when my body was found to be with cancer on 1st June, I make a decision to go straight to my Maker.
Frankly, this was something quite counter-intuitive to my usual modus operandi. I chose not to research this condition or spend too much time reading up on it. I asked Ben to do that instead and just flag out (with post-its, please) what I needed to know to arrive at a decision medical treatment-wise.
I would say this is the best decision that I have made since my diagnosis.
Of the little that I read on cancer, it was already too much. Everything about it is depressing and only pulls you down. I have been interested in information only if it makes me better. I choose to look up, not down.
Like taking medicine, I also spend three quiet times a day reading the bible and praying. I have been actively reading passages about God’s healing in the bible. It has strengthened me spiritually and is healing me from inside out.
2. Creating prayer circles
The next best thing I did when I was diagnosed was to update a few circles of friends through WhatsApp to ask them to pray for me.
The prayers of everyone have sustained me through some of my low points, as at any one time, there’s someone sending me a prayer or pick-me-up message.
On days when I’m cooped up at home, it’s like a line to the outside world.
3. Being Open
Right from the start, I made a conscious decision to be open about my diagnosis and treatment.
Because of that, there has been a tremendous level of support from friends and acquaintances. Old friends I’ve not seen or lost touch with for the past 20-30 years contacted me after reading my blogpost updates on Facebook.
Friends who have encountered cancer directly or in their family and friend circles have offered great practical advice, especially survival tips for this chemotherapy period.
4. Family Routine
Although my dad is still ferrying Caleb to Kindy and his other activities, I have resumed the childcare routine at home. It’s nice to slowly ease back to some normal routines and still have some downtime when my dad is ferrying Caleb. And routine includes scolding, nagging and the whole parental shebang. It’s lung exercise which gives me lots of healthy oxygen intake.
5. Friendly Uplift
Going pink of health in a celebrate-my-wellness lunch with my girlfriends of 30 something years (yes, we are ahem…30 something years old🙂 )
Over the past three months, I have met with quite a number of old and new friends. I’ve kept my schedule fluid but have been able to at least catch up with different friends every now and then. A hearty conversation and girly get-togethers has a great way of brightening the week and increasing more oxygen intake.
Lunch of the week – with my readaholic friends, where we jabbered about books, reading, motherhood, books and reading
(My dear friend sent this to celebrate my Half-Time. Yes, I got permission to post this so we are still friends!🙂
6. Writing therapy
I wasn’t sure if I was going to be writing during this period but writing has turned out to be therapeutic for me.
I have journaled almost daily, blogged weekly and written a new picture manuscript draft (in its 8th draft). I’m now revising another picture book manuscript that I had gotten stuck on earlier this year.
While I’ve taken it slow with my creative writing, it has been something that perks me up when I look at my week ahead. It’s write medicine for my soul.
Reaching this mid-point has felt tedious on some days, but these routines have sustained me and kept me well this far. I thank God for all His mercies through this time.
So, I’m going to keep at it for the remaining 9 weeks ahead, knowing that the goal is not too far off and a new season awaits me when this is over.
Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name. 5 For the Lord is good and his love endures forever; his faithfulness continues through all generations.
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